10 Intimacy Senses
5 Physical Senses of Sensuality,
5 Mental, Emotional and
Communication Intimacy Senses
There are five physical senses, long known to make us aware of our surroundings and helps us analyze our conditions. Our brain is the powerhouse that controls these sensory receptors and determines what to do and how to react.
The Physical Senses
Our five physical (erotic) senses (Touch, Taste, Smell, Hearing and Sight) as they are utilized in sensuality and intimacy can vary greatly compared to senses in our daily life. These senses are monitored and controlled by our largest sex organ… the brain. Based on past experiences in, relationships, emotions, desires, traumas, environment and other factors it decides whether what it perceives is “sexy” or not, and how you should react on the subconscious level, before you are even aware you had a choice.
An example of varying perceptions would include smelling a food, such as coconut in the kitchen. Our mouth may begin to water for some cream pie. A whole different reaction would be brought into play if you were blindfolded in the bedroom. We hear a click of a lotion bottle and smell the sensual aroma of coconut, the excitement and anticipating would grow for its application on your personal area that loves rubbing.
Five Physical Senses:
Touch, above all the other senses is the sensation we associate the most with sensuality and intimacy. Feeling your own skin encounter your partners, caressing and embracing each other with your arms and legs and giving and receiving pleasure with your hands and bodies is how many of us achieve sexual satisfactions. When we indulge all our sense of touch at the same time we experience other senses of pleasure that are heightened even greater.
By varying intensity of touch, textures, temperatures moistness, objects, vibrations and others, we can experiment and keep the excitement levels high. Experiment using different body parts of yours to explore the sensation of touch on all of your partner’s body parts.
Touch, above all the other senses is the sensation we associate the most with sensuality and intimacy. Feeling your own skin encounter your partners, caressing and embracing each other with your arms and legs and giving and receiving pleasure with your hands and bodies is how many of us achieve sexual satisfaction. When we indulge all our sense of touch at the same time we experience other senses of pleasure that are heightened even greater.
By varying intensity of touch, textures, temperatures, moistness, use of objects, vibrations and others, we can experiment and keep the excitement levels high. Experiment using different body parts of yours to explore the sensation of touch on all of your partner’s body parts.
Smells can be extremely provocative and trigger strong emotions, sensations and memories; in fact your sense of smell is the most heightened of all your senses. Introduction of scents to the intimate environment makes it more welcoming and erotic. Everyone is different so different smells can cause different reactions; it could be the smell of certain flowers you feeling frisky, or maybe it’s essential oils that turns you on.
We each have own smells; pheromones are unique chemicals we all release and research has revealed that we are subliminally attracted to the pheromones of our sexual partners. They can be masked by the scents we apply such as perfume and aftershave, so avoid these next times you’re together and be aware of whether you have heightened desire by each other’s natural aromas.
Sensual sounds can add to the excitement of the moment; your partner’s heavy breathing, sighs, moans and loving words of encouragement. Also sounds that might be gross out of context heighten excitement when created in the moment of passion and heard in the increasing heights.
Throughout history music has been used as the soundtrack of romance and seduction, and the science behind its effectiveness was proven that listening to music promotes the feel good brain chemical dopamine and also stimulates signs of arousal. It also covers the sounds of excitement we make together from prying ears.
Sex is an erotic act, and watching it makes it heightens the excitement, and for many adults the visual aspect of sex is as important as the physical side; in fact research has revealed that for over half of people, seeing was the most important of all the senses when they’re with their partner.
When the intimate encounter is beginning use visual cues to build excitement. What is your partner wearing? Can you see clues of what is underneath? What is around the room? Are there toys or other objects about to come into play? Are there candles or incense about to be lit? Is your partner showing of special dance or flirting moves, or flashing peaks or self caresses, smiles, tongue or lips gestures?
Keep enough lights or atmosphere lighting to be able to see you lover’s expressions and mood, but maintain their comfort. Mirrors can add to the visual excitement. Even hand mirrors can be part of the play to see the action or your partner’s reactions.
Emotional and Communication
Sense Of Caring:
The practice of the Sense of Caring for your intimate partner provides nurturing and support to your relationship partner. Care giving behaviors are targeted at reducing your partner’s distress and supporting their coping efforts in situations of either discomfort or challenge. Care giving may include emotional support (expressions of care, affection, sympathy, and encouragement) including instrumental support (providing of information, advice, and resources). Effective caring behavior enhances the psychological well-being of your mate, as well as the quality of the relationship between the two of you.
Sense Of Desire:
Differences between the sexes and their understanding and levels of sexual desire can be vast. Your own desires and wishes, as well as your partner’s must be explored and appreciated. These beliefs and understandings all contribute to how people behave and interact with each other, particularly for various sexual activities and intimate play.
It is critical that each partner understands and investigates their sensual interests and desires first. By understanding your own needs you can express those to your partner and possibly understand their needs better.
The largest componant of the Sense of Desire is the drive to please. In keeping you interest in pleasing your partner at the forefront each partner with reach their goals in the climax of all intimate incounters.
As partners exploration and play broadens they can work together to enhance fulfillment of desires and discover new possibilities and pleasures.
Sense Of Sharing:
Drawing on your partners strengths and allowing your features to enhance your mate is a key to intimate sharing. This involves being vulnerable and open without fear of being hurt. Powerful intimate relationships involve friendships that are open and honest.
They must not be afraid to share secret sensitive parts of themselves with their partner. A strong sense of safety and trust is necessary in sharing secrets with each other, secrets that reveal your greatest interests, desires, dreams and injuries. Be an open book with a transparent cover.
The strongest element of sensual sharing is the desire to please and pleasure your partner, first and foremost without focusing on your own needs. By giving you are also receiving the pleasure of seeing you intimate partner’s satisfaction. When your sensual mate is pleased, that sharing partner will want to insure your happiness. What goes around comes around… repeatedly.
Expressing gratitude and sharing appreciation for a partner is the primary means for creating a positive relationship.
Sense Of Compassion:
The sense of intimate compassion must first start with self-compassion. This action consists of reflecting empathy towards yourself in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering. You must first extend yourself; self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.
By accepting your own perceived shortcomings it is easier to accept your intimate partner as they are. In accepting your partner for who they are, you are able to then help them understand and accept themselves.
Once compassion is a joint venture you can help each other in the future. By your being compassionate, you are better able to accept mistakes and deal with any problems arising from unanticipated situations.
Sense Of Companionship:
A sense of intimate companionship is a feeling of closeness, cozy feeling, comfortable, familiarity, mutual fellowship and sharing a truly connected friendship. In a long-term intimate relationship a sense of companionship provides the comfort, including the mental connection and security between their mates.
Companionship runs deep, lasting through hardship, or cooled passion, and the mundane repetitive life. A sense of companionship can strengthen commitment and spark passion as well. Companions who have been through the trials and tribulations can have an empowered passion for their partner.
Intimacy with a loner is counterproductive if you seek a long-term relationship. Dual sense of companionship is required for a successful committed partnership.
All of these mental processes and sensory actions are part of the ongoing job of being mentally committed to our relationship. We all want life to be fun, but it is a job to be successfully happy with our life partner.