Oral Sex
Isn’t Foreplay…
It Is Sex!

Intimacy is like a spoked wheel. Many see that “O” in the middle as the center to be the hub of attention, we want to reach it as soon as possible. There may seem to be little interest to tread around the outer rim for very long. Grease those bearings and go in full bore for the core. But work as the nave of overall pleasure.

The journey isn’t the destination… it’s the adventure.

Look at that wheel with the spokes as different options to reach the center of excitement. Each tine radiating out of the spoked wheel is something to explore as we try new sensations and share with our partner.

We begin our tour on the outer rim of soft fleshiness which is fun to explore and discover on its own. We know we don’t need to necessarily linger here because it is a place that we can return at anytime (and should often).

Each spoke spinning past us at mind blowing speed is a new adventure to try, and oral sex is one of those adventures. Like every spoke on the wheel of intimacy, we know it isn’t a requirement, simply another option.

ORAL SEX is SEX.

Oral sex is best viewed as something that can be exciting and pleasurable on its own or as a tool towards ultimate intimate satisfaction. Play is best started before entering the bed and using different spokes such as touch, kissing, and communication to build towards more intense play such as oral sex. We know it isn’t called “Oral Foreplay”, which is why it’s a good indication that it is best implemented as a “play thing” that we bring in and out during out intimate sexual exchange.

Choose oral sex as one path towards shared sensual joy through tease and please. Explore and then let the force of nature spin you back out and try something new. Keep in mind that most women can’t achieve orgasm simply with penetration. The majority of women require some sort of clitoral stimulation to reach their orgasmic peak. Oral and finger play are great tools to give women the added stimulation they may need. Work together as a team, with communication for mutual pleasure…

Take it for s spin.

A Woman’s Best Methods To Reach An Orgasm

1. Orgasm at home alone through self pleasure.

2. Receiving stimulation from another woman.

3. Stimulation from a caring, giving and well informed man.

1. The most likely method of women reaching an orgasm is through self pleasure. Studies have shown that women know themselves better than anyone else and know how to give themselves orgasmic pleasure. Once a women knows what she likes, she is able to pass this information onto a caring partner who wants to please.

2. Woman by the fact of sharing the same anatomy as other ladies, are able to translate what pleases them into techniques for pleasuring another person with the same parts and paths to satisfaction. Studies have shown that women who have same-sex partners are more likely to help their mate reach an orgasm regularly.

3. For a male-female couple to have regular orgasms for the lady, respect and communication is required. The man must pay attention to verbal and non-verbal messages sent from his partner. More so, it is ideal if the man can inquire about their partner’s needs, desires and preferred techniques. Simply indicating an interest in learning about a their needs puts him way ahead in mental comfort, easing the way to the possibility of explosive orgasms.

The more we care about our partner’s wants, desires and needs, the more likely full satisfaction will be achieved by both intimate mates. If we don’t care about our bed partner we are simply performing personal sexual gratification, not sharing intimacy.

Without Caring
Satisfaction Is Unlikely!

Make Your Own Sexy Movie Together

Sensual Intimacy

Many people don’t think their partner should be visually stimulated by someone else to for use in masturbation. That is a valid concern if that is how they feel.

Being a visual individual it can be difficult to get sexually stimulated without some sort of erotic media, that is why Playboy was so popular when it came out. A great solution is if a couple can create visual materials to share with each other. This can either be an opportunity to be comfortable with your body, or could create added anxiety depending on how you deal with it. Your partner may allow you to create the images but may have no interest in seeing them.

Making our own centerfold photos or porn is so easy nowadays with all of the electronic imaging options. We can be high-tech  or simple depending on our personal preferences. The first thing to consider is personal security. It is best if partners don’t show their faces, this is in case this imagery gets out there somehow. You can keep you anonymity by only showing close up images, or you can increase the production value by using masks or costumes.

Creating the imagery should be another part of your sensual intimacy. Have fun and enjoy the erotic play and excitement of creating the images. The simplest way to produce photo images is to go old school and get a Polaroid camera.  This way it  is less likely that the files to end up in the wrong hands. They are manufacturing the film again and this can be fun and instant gratification way of creating images.

The next step up would be to simply use your mobile phone. Some cell phones are actually better than many cameras and can focus extremely closeup. You may want to buy a cheep selfie light to attach to your phone for those dark spots, and a selfie stick for those hard to reach areas.

Digital cameras are great for image quality, especially if you intend to edit the video. Digital cameras (DSLR) are larger and may be awkward to fit into tight spots. A digital movie camera is a better option and most have a view screen you can twist around to see what is recording.

Another kinky option would be to have somebody else do the recording for you. Make sure you trust them and that you have control over all of the files.

You are a star, share your stuff.

We Are Sexy